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Parenting- Sanctification in Concentration

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frozen-orange-juiceYou know those juice concentrate cans you buy in the frozen section? I LOVE those! I get that from my Dad, he downs Orange juice like no tomorrow. Every time I open one, memories flood from childhood. Just the smell, feel, sound of opening and mixing a can of frozen concentrate reminds me of him. I remember that depending on which child had the chore of mixing Dad’s juice in the morning, (we’d take turns on Saturdays making one big gallon for the whole family, but mostly at Dad’s request!) it would be stronger, or weaker. Maybe that child would not measure well, and add one too many cans of water. Or maybe they’d forget one. Or, in some cases, they’d intentionally put less water in so the flavor was stronger. (Ok, I’ll admit, that was me!)
It is this picture that comes to mind when I consider how parenting encourages sanctification. Parenting produces this super concentrated, extra flavorful brand of it, if you are willing. Like the orange juice, parenting doesn’t allow for a lot of extra water to spread the flavor.  Stress, difficulties, and hard decisions come every day. So do those little things that can either make you laugh or get you down, like when your 2 year old decides to strap herself into the doll stroller, and take a ride. Or when your 6 year old screeches loudly while you are leaving a message on someone’s answering machine. (I know I should’ve told the children I was on the phone!) Or when your 4 year old decides that peanut butter really DOES taste better when eaten with fingers.

As a Homeschooling Mom, I cannot escape the thick of things, and willing or not, I must face my flaws, shortcomings, and failings daily. There is no gentle confrontation. I cannot ignore my tendency to laziness in the highly charged environment I manage. Ignoring wise financial advice has bitten me in the rear quite a few times on the scanty budget we keep. What about patience? I face that beast daily. Patience is NOT a natural trait I possess.

I have been going through a season. Pregnant with child no. 4 (and due March 15) I am tired, overwhelmed, and not so cheerful. I wake up in the morning, looking pretty scary, and acting pretty scary. This has been the hardest pregnancy so far, and managing the daily tasks of school, housework, and making almost all of our food from scratch, is daunting. Add in a cat, and her 5 kittens (3 of which have recently moved out, PTL!) and 3 energetic children cooped up to escape the cold outside, and I am discouraged. So easily. But I am not alone, and thankfully, I’ve had plenty of “attagirl!” thrown my way.
2 books recently have been passed on to me, and both of them have forced me to re-orient my perspective and consider my attitude. Am I allowing myself to be so overwhelmed that I am forgetting why I have this job in the first place? Am I losing my grip, my goal to honor God in raising my children?

1000giftsThe first book: One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp is not one I’d readily recommend to everyone. As I’ve read it, I’ve been digging deep into scripture, Berean style, to hold it up against the Word of God.  I’m not entirely convinced that Mrs. Voskamp’s theology is 100% on the money, but she makes one good point that has made an indelible print on my daily struggle. Be thankful. I know, it is such a simple thing, but finding the joys in the blessing of staying home has kept me from descending into bitterness and wallowing in self pity over a season that will be over in a few short months. Unable to earn the money I did before cleaning houses (I am the size of the house, and frankly, my own toilets have to be scrubbed by my husband or a well trained and supervised willing child… My DIY pedicures have also suffered under this regime.) I am not only struggling physically, but also my husband and I are both stressed by the blow that the past year has been financially. To add a loss of income at the end of a dry spell is rough. We wouldn’t have planned it this way, and things looked very different 7-8 months ago, but sometimes God takes you on a journey, and learning isn’t optional. In any case, God’s Word DOES command us to be thankful, and to praise God in all circumstances. So thank you Ann, for the timely reminder!

Loving thelittleyearsThe other book, which I would recommend wholeheartedly, is called Loving the Little Years, Motherhood in The Trenches by Rachel Jankovic. I’ll admit to reading it only last night, and being halfway through at that. I appreciate her perspective, her advice, and most of all, the fact that she is in the very same boat as I am. Setting me up for her convicting message, was the idea of thankfulness for what I have. Child induced smiles every morning, flexibility with time and tasks, and life, etc. And of course, ticklefights with little giggles. Rachel takes it one step further and challenges us Mamas to look at Motherhood and those little years in terms of our own sinfulness and how it affects our children. Sanctification is a big theme in this book. I don’t remember if she calls it by that name, but the idea that motherhood is a refining fire in our walk with God really resonated with me. Before we can expect our children to conquer sin, we must look our own sins in the face, and realize that we are sinners too. Complete with our own childish behaviors. This changes my whole perspective. It isn’t my job to hold their feet to the fire because they’ve inconvenienced me, their father or anyone else, so much as it is to encourage, guide, and nurture them as they recognize and address very real sin in their own lives. And I must address the sin in mine.

Then, this morning. I heard a sermon where the Pastor pointed out a truth I’ve known all along, but conveniently forgotten when it comes to Motherhood. It isn’t me who changes these little hearts by doing everything right. It is the Holy Spirit who does the REAL work. My job is to obey scripture, teach it, live it, know it, and consistently apply it in my home. But that alone does not make my children “Good Kids.” In that way, parenting is an ultimate act of faith. One that presupposes that God’s plan is best, submits to his purpose for me, cheerfully, and with a grateful heart, and trusts that his outcome will occur. I am trusting that God will put my children where they ought to be. After all, they aren’t mine, but a precious burden given to me to grow, nurture, teach, and lead to their ultimate Creator and sustainer, God. I can’t expect that my ineffectual efforts, and my sinful failures will produce anything but more sinful failures. But I can trust that God’s Word NEVER returns void, and that the Holy Spirit will work in my children as he works in me. Ezekiel 18 comes to mind, where God says that every soul is his, and the soul who sins shall die. God knows who my children will become, and he will complete his own work in their life.
After all, who knows?  Perhaps all 3 of them will one day experience the intense pressure cooker that is Motherhood, and the sweet sweet returns it brings. 🙂

Guess What?!

Thanks again to Jenny over at DIYparenting for passing these books on to me! 🙂 They were a big encouragement when I most needed it!

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Still Getting Into A Routine-Help?

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From the recent shot of our little family above, you can see this school year is already a bit of a challenge. I have the unique joy of teaching Toddler stuff (colors, animals, animal sounds, speaking etc.) which happens all day long in all sorts of organic ways. I also have a Preschooler, and my 1st grader! As we hash out this school year, and find a rhythm, we are encountering a few bumps. Week 2 is yet another chance to smooth things out.  In an effort to ask advice of those of you who know, I’m writing this post, feel free to make a suggestion once you’ve seen what a typical day consists of. Times don’t always jibe, and are very loose, as they shift around our speed for that day. For example, if we wake up at 8:00, everything shifts back an hour.

7:00-8:00 – Waking up. Everyone awakens at a leisurely pace.  I usually Facebook or blog on the laptop in bed during this time, while one by one the girls crawl in to snuggle with me. 🙂 If the girls request it, sometimes they can watch a short movie. Breakfast occurs in here when they want it. Usually cereal or something light.

8:00-9:00 – School work begins! Catechism is first, coupled with a form of family devotions that is more scriptural exegesis on their level than anything else, then we start our Slate exercises (From McGuffy’s) in notebooks.  Emma has a few light ones (I write names of people she knows, she copies them.) Sarah does Slate exercises in earnest right from McGuffy’s. Her handwriting is improving a bit day by day. We usually do subjects in this order:

  • Math
  • McGuffy’s Primer
  • Social studies/history (Right now, that is the Olympics, and related Geography.)

10:00-11:00 – Break time! We eat a snack, Ava gets put down for a nap, and while she goes to sleep, I play Pandora on the computer, and do a bit of Facebooking. (I can’t leave the room, or she won’t sleep! I generally get bored sitting there staring at the wall, on really tough days, I might fall asleep with her, while the girls read books together. Facebook will wait! Naps rule! Haha!)  Once she’s down and out, we get back down to business. Some days this happens earlier than others, and we get back to work well before 11:00. Other days, it is prolonged, because Ava needs to be rocked and held. We work around that.

11:00-12:00 – Back to work!

  • Supplementary reading material (Like Little Bear, or other phonics rich readers from the Library.
  • Science/Health, we’re doing a really cool series from Answers in Genesis on How God forms babies in the womb.  This is an interesting and relevant topic to all of the girls, since they’re very interested in what God is doing with their new sibling!

Ava wakes up at different times each day, and this affects how much housework we do. I like to do certain stuff while she is sleeping, but when she is awake, I can work around her, and let her be my ‘helper’

12:00-1:00 – Lunch break! Everyone eats together, and then we all find something we like to do. The girls might play a bit, usually they play with barbies, or their play kitchen, or maybe they play outside. If Ava is awake we play, if she isn’t, I wait for her to wake up (I might do 10 min of facebook in here, if time allows, but if not, it generally gets ditched.)  and I feed her her lunch.

1:00-3:00 -Clean up School work time. If there is anything left to do, we do it here. This is catch all time, especially if it was a tough day. Most days we’re done by this time, and then we do family chores during this time. Maybe fit in some hard core outside play, and work in some PE exercises. (trying to find a way to do yoga more often, it is so relaxing. Unfortunately I haven’t found the magic formula for completing a whole Yoga class with kids.) Generally, when they are done, they find a place to play, (their room more often than not.) and unwind. Ava is my buddy, but the other two find their own fun.

3:00-5:00 Supper prep. My DH usually calls during this time to let us know he’s on his way home. I start supper when he calls, so it is ready when he walks in the door, or close to it. Then we have family dinner together, and get on with the evening!

Exceptions to the Rule:

  • On days I work (clean houses.) We usually have to flip the schedule and be more flexible. This is generally Tuesdays every other week, and Fridays every week. On those days we have to be more creative.  We’re planning on working school into Saturday to make up for any lost time, if needed.
  • When kids are sick! I’m not sure how to handle this? How do you guys? 2 of mine have minor colds right now, and I don’t want to push them, but nobody has a fever either…
  • Daily errands. How do you work in the “whoa we ran out of milk!” or the “Gotta run to the bank…” or when the insurance company calls you to drop off that paper again that they shredded by accident after you disrupted your daily schedule to drop it off yesterday… (true story) I count these as  Social Studies activities, and take time to use them as a teaching moment. We also bring Books on CD in the car, since our History program right now is “Reading” through the Little House books, and discussing the history therein. We listen to it every time we’re in the car. Whatever the day.

In my Young homeschooling Mama fun, I’ve found a ton of other blogs I really enjoy that encourage me and have some excellent practical advice on homeschooling.

On the Subject of Struggles- The Proverbs 31 Woman

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Last night was the culmination of a few months of stress. In order to make it financially, and still be able to homeschool, we’ve had to get creative in earning money.  Taking a cue from the Proverbs 31 woman, I’ve tried to structure that around Spiritual needs (Family devotions, discipleship, nurturing, and raising children to put God as a priority in their life. Teaching them the meaning of Biblical Character.) Marital needs, Family needs (keeping our home, maintaining ministries to others, making academic requirements, and learning necessary skills.) and Church/Community needs (being active in our body of believers, encouraging other Moms in the same boat etc.)  I trust God to provide, and so far he has, but lately we’ve been stretched quite thin in trying to be flexible. Call it growing pains, call it the natural side effect of flexing those muscles, but the past two months have been a literal stretch. And last night, something snapped a bit.  Exhausted, in pain, and trying to cope with all the issues, I had me a pretty long prayer session. I think that this past week, I have stepped over the line, and placed our financial needs first, and stretched a little too far. In seeking God’s face, I had to go back to square one, his Word. As I grow, mature, I realize that the Proverbs 31 woman wasn’t superhuman. She was experienced, and as it says “She fears the Lord.” She looked to him first to inform her choices. My question to you readers is, how do you read this scripture? What strikes you? What do you take from it? How do you handle your burdens, and keep all of those balls in the air? What do you do when you struggle with any, or all of these?

Proverbs 31:10-31 (ESV)

The Woman Who Fears the Lord

10 An excellent wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
and works with willing hands.
14 She is like the ships of the merchant;
she brings her food from afar.
15 She rises while it is yet night
and provides food for her household
and portions for her maidens.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
17 She dresses herself with strength
and makes her arms strong.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
Her lamp does not go out at night.
19 She puts her hands to the distaff,
and her hands hold the spindle.
20 She opens her hand to the poor
and reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes bed coverings for herself;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates
when he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them;
she delivers sashes to the merchant.
25  Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
27 She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
30  Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.

Why Aren’t My Kids Behaving?

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This week I’ve been in a bit of a funk. Feeling frustrated, tired, and totally inadequate.  I dealt with this the natural way, by seeking God in his Word by napping a lot and spending a ton of time on facebook.

After every nap I would wake up wondering: Why don’t I feel rested? Why are the kids so naughty? Feeling frustrated, and reading a post on facebook, I did a search on Biblical Character. “That is what they need!” I thought. “A bit of Biblical character! I’m so excited to start teaching that this school year!” As I was lamenting my lack of money for resources, curriculum, workbooks etc. It occurred to me, their recent lack of Biblical character stemmed from MY recent lack of Biblical character.  Whoops.  Here I had been laying around, watching movies, reading facebook, doing all the things I felt entitled to do in a funk. “I deserve to lay down, I’m tired.” I’d think. And then, I’d turn around and wonder why my kids were so lazy, not doing their chores, responding in snappy ways, and yelling at each other.

Oops.

“Biblical character begins at home.” I read. Yikes. Well… There hasn’t been an abundance of that around here lately. Guilty as charged. I’m so busy fighting somebody else’s battles on facebook, that I’m too tired to do the most important fighting. Fighting to glorify God in my own home. Back to square one. Time to get up, get moving, and actively serve God. One trip to the library and the nursing home don’t count. Time to dig in and get dirty, and sit with the girls while they clean their room, help them put their toys away, read the Bible with them (what better textbook is there?) and unplug the TV. Time to walk away from MY fight, and look to what Jesus has for me:

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
Matthew 11:28-30

Repurposing- Titus FO meeting notes

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So I’m learning to streamline, simplify, repurpose, and clean up my life as a Mom, a Wife, a Woman, and a human being.

I’ve thrown out a ton of junk, focused on more specific goals as opposed to unrealized and undefined dreams, and the last bastion of undefined is this blog.

I’m repurposing it.

I will be using it as a companion to the budding homeschooling ministry that is being started at our church. I’ll use this blog for meeting notes, announcements, general thoughts, and a discussion springboard. Lets see if this works out! Here goes nothin’! 🙂

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Titus Family Outreach Meeting notes from the March Meeting:

This meeting began with some more general topics, and went from there! Here are my notes, please feel free to jump in and comment here, or on Facebook!:

1. Dedicating a room/schedule to schooling.

a.) Workbox method, or dedicating a whole room? Is it practical? Does it help to make things more defined and easier to do?

b.) Schedule vs. Routine. What kind of structure works? Should it be a strict school-like schedule, or more of a flexible fit as you go?

The consensus of this discussion was that with young children, routine is handy, but too much routine can be constricting. Also that school doesn’t always have to be “formal” so depending on how we want to school our kids, the structure can impede or assist. We need more experience to speak on this subject. Feel free to weigh in!

2. Pervasive Influences

a.) How do we respond to what comes into our homes Biblically? Kids sin no matter what they are exposed to, but will what we expose them to encourage worse behavior?

b.) How do we reach their heart instead of merely addressing the behavior?

The consensus of this discussion is that a balance is needed. Using common sense on what our kids see, but not sheltering them from every possible bad experience is possible. Being ready to teach, instead of avoiding certain subjects all the time, is our best bet. Honesty, openness, and age appropriate scriptural instruction are all we know to use. Again, we lack experience to really know. The Bible is our guide.

3. Trusting God’s plan for our kids.

a.) Prayer and contemplation.

b.) Personal devotions, as a source of God’s strength.

This speaks for itself.

4. Future of Titus FO

a.) Seeking more information on Biblical roles of women.

b.) Check into interest in Steph’s Bible Study idea on the Titus 2 model of family life.

Consensus on this is that we need more discussion!

Jenny, Did I miss anything?

Comments and questions are VERY welcome! From the blogging world, AND Jacob’s church, Titus FO members!

Dude! Where’s My Car?!

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Last night, Allen came to pick the girls and I up at work for some family time.  We hopped into the rabbit (no pun intended) and drove to my Mom’s house to pick up Ava.  On the way back, we had a few errands to run, and then we intended to pick up my car, which I’d left at work. (About a mile up the road from our home.) After piling back into the rabbit, we stopped at the library to return some VERY late books, went to the grocery store to pick up a can of soup for to make some beef stroganoff.  In all our haste to make the stroganoff we went home quickly, and Allen played with the girls whilst I made supper.  In all my housewifery glory, supper was ready by 5, and we had a leisurely dinner.  We talked, ate, listened to a James MacDonald sermon, and overall had a relaxing time.  Just as Allen was about to head out the door, Sheila came with spinbrushes for the girls with sticker packets.  The girls spent plenty of time working on their sticker brushes and were thrilled with the best birthday present ever!! (I was all for it, toothbrushes after all that cake? Yes please!)   After sharing some leftover Emma birthday cake with Sheila, she went on her merry way, and we were then graced with the presence of my parents, with whom we also shared some cake, and Emma received another good gift.  All’s well that ends well, and fighting a huge headache, I put the girls to bed, and after applying various remedies, I went to bed myself.

Morning came.  Unfortunately, Sanity did not accompany it!  Allen arrived home from work with a gift for Emma, and we all gathered round while she opened it, and enjoyed it.  This took some considerable time, and we were late to leave.  Ever the gentleman, Allen offered to drop the girls off at my Mom’s, so I could get to work on time.  I went outside, helped him strap the kids into his car, noting that mine was not parked with his, therefore, it MUST be out back by the garage! I kissed everyone goodbye, went back inside, packed my lunch, humming all along.  I was pleasantly surprised to note that I was leaving a full 5 minutes early, and fully confidant that I would impress my supervisor with my early arrival. I grabbed my keys, walked out the door to find… NO CAR in the backyard.

Uhmmmm.  Dude, where’s my car?!?

Now I might enjoy running, but I can’t do a mile in 10 minutes.  Which is all the time I had left at this point.  Oh yeah, and I live at the bottom of the hill that my employer sits on top of.  Whoops.

After a few moments it hit me…  I had left it at work last night.

I laughed.  I just realized I did something pretty dumb.  I lost my car.  How do you lose your car? It had taken me almost 5 minutes of standing there, jiggling my keys and laughing at myself to come to my senses (if indeed I have sense.)  I ran inside, looked at the clock, 5 minutes till I gotta be on the floor. Dang.  I called work.

“Hello, L——– L——– C——-”

“Hey, K, I lost my car.”

“You WHAT?!”

“I lost my car”

“Oh yeah, we were wondering why it was in the parking lot all night! How did you lose it?”

“We left yesterday, and I left it overnight by accident.  We forgot to pick it up.  I was calling cause I’ll be a little late.”

“Well I can come and pick you up. How’s that?”

“Oh, I was gonna run, but I’d be later, that would work out better cause I’ll be on time then…”

“Alright, I’ll be right there! Hahaha!! Only you!”

I went back outside, and stood by the street laughing at myself.  Every time I would get a straight face, I’d start to giggle again.  After K arrived, I had a slightly embarrassing two minute ride to work. (It is kind of embarrassing to be an adult, a mother of three who lost her car, y’know?)

When all is said and done, I am glad to work with people who not only have a fantastic sense of humour, but take me as I am.  

A wacko…

Sometimes Words Are Not Enough

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Sometimes, rarely, I find myself at a loss for words.  Today I find it even more so, as I struggle to put into words just how I feel about the recent death of my husband’s uncle.

He lived far away, far enough away that I didn’t meet him, even after we were married.  I wished I could have met him, but, it wasn’t going to happen, or so I thought, and so life went on. I heard about him here and there, a distant presence everyone else knew, but I did not.

Then he got cancer.

Everyone prayed, hoped, prayed, and begged, and pleaded for his cancer not to take him.  He was given a few months, and told he would not survive.  And yet, God listened.  He became cancer free.  He came to visit, and I finally got to meet the missing family member.

I was impressed to say the least.  He was a warm, kind, caring man, had a great sense of humor.  Most of all though, his faith in Christ was inspiring.  At one point, as he was telling stories, a family member brought something up from his past, and his response blew me away. He said that Christ had kept him from going back to that, and that he was a changed man because of his faith in Christ.

No fanfare, no trumpets, no thumping sermon. Just a simple declaration of Christ’s power to heal, to change, to renew.

He felt this way about his whole life.  When the cancer came back, he wanted to go home. To be with the ultimate source of all renewal, Jesus Christ.

He is there now, being renewed. We will miss you Dennis.  Your simple example of faith rocked the very foundations of my own shaky faith.  I saw Christ in you. Thank you.

‎2 Corinthians 4:16-18
Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.

Please be praying for his family, his wife, his children, his mother, his siblings. We have all lost a special man.  A good man, strong in faith, and a source of inspiration and hope.

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The New Fad: Selfish Parenthood

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As I’ve been reading a few blogs and news articles recently, a few have struck me dead on as a dangerous reminder of how self centered some in our society have become, and how duped the rest of us have become in applauding them for “finding freedom” in making their own choices, and being “courageous” enough to share.

Let me start off by saying, that in the two cases I am about to discuss, this is a large load of steaming cow dung.

First, the courageous woman who makes her own form of motherhood: Rahna Reiko Rizzuto.  I am at a loss as to the “courage” of choosing to leave your young children, because motherhood just isn’t for you.

Secondly, the woman who loves her son more. I don’t understand how anyone can think like this, or why posting this train of thought “takes guts” as some commenters said.

Overall, I am personally in shock and awe of this new phenomenon, selfish parenting.  I am a parent, and not a (cliche alert) perfect one at that, but who is? I believe in Parenting By The Book, and Free range parenting. I believe that children should learn with the goal being independent, and  achieving successful adulthood, not dependence and extended childhood.  I believe that parenting is not about self gratification, but about teaching, guiding, disciplining, and trusting your children to grow up, and become fulfilled adults. That takes sacrifice, be it sacrificing time, dignity, popularity, date night, or a clean house.

I also believe that parenting is, by nature, a selfless act.  Nobody chooses to be a parent because they are lured in by the joys of potty training, or lusting after the fun of stomach viruses and two year olds. No one is exclaiming over the joys of diaper pail smells, or the wonders of never being able to pee in peace.

Parenting is not for the faint of heart. Everyone knows that.

It has its bountiful joys, beautiful smiles, baby giggles, ah-ha moments, and big hello hugs, proud-you’re-my-kid moments. But I believe it is an insult to those yearning to be parents all over, to those who have prematurely lost their chance at parenthood, to forge this “brave” new kind of parenting, this “honesty” and level of “confession” meant to “empower” parents.  All it does is encourage selfishness, and excuse making. Parenting is nothing simple, nothing small, nothing easy.  It is a glorious challenge, full of amazing adventures. I resent this “new kind of parenting” that diminishes the true joys and struggles of thoughtful, committed parenting.

I also believe that this “new kind of parenting” cuts our kids legs out from underneath them, and no matter if we are free rangers, or attachment believers, can’t we all agree on one thing? We want what is best for our kids, thats why we do what we do, despite the “I hate you Mom” moments, the slammed doors, the crumb filled kitchens and chocolate handprints on our laptop, and the peanut butter smears on the windows. We don’t do this because it makes us feel good (lets be honest moms, it does NOT make us feel good 24/7.)  Parenting is not about feeling! It is about good hard work and elbow grease, because it is the right thing to do, and because no matter how Junior makes us feel, we love him ANYWAY!

I know I am thankful for the unconditional love and sacrifice my parents exhibited for me.

Its A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood

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Thank God for the beautiful weather, its been one of the few bright spots in my day today.

And what a day.

Woken up early this morning by two kids with fevers… followed by another wake up via phone call from a family member, who is very ill.

Armed with a healthy sense of worry, I headed off to work, to find an exhausting day full of changes in routine and the norms.   I am one of those routine craving types who eats tuna sandwiches every Wednesday, so it wasn’t much of a welcome addition to today’s adventures.

All in all, the workday ended, an update from my hubby on our family member and a healthy dose of prayer, and made for a more peaceful ending to the day. Still a rough day.  But I know whose got my back.

Please be in prayer for those members of my family, including my family member for a speed recovery and wisdom for the doctors.

Woe Is Me Vs. Yay!

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I’m feeling very conflicted right now.  Things are beginning to fall into place, as far as routines, life is becoming fullfilling again.  And then. Bam. I see something I want, but don’t have, and isn’t the grass always greener on the other side?

Its so easy to become discontent when life seems to be not JUST right.  The trick is in realizing life will never be JUST right.  You gotta choose to make it right.  Choose to slap a smile on that face, find the joy in things, and don’t sweat the small stuff.  We all have regrets, wish we were something better, others love us more, or whatever, but lets face it, feelings and perceptions lie.

Now that I’m off my soapbox, I’m going to remind myself of things I’m thankful for.

  • Little people that smile when they see me, and think I’m the best ever.  This ain’t lastin’ long!
  • Baby giggles
  • Reading books with my kiddos before bed
  • My husband’s commitment to our family
  • My Mom’s selfless choice to watch my kids for me.
  • My boss’ flexibility in my work schedule.  I’m so glad she let me go part time.
  • My supportive friends who urge me onward and upward.  You know who you guys are.  🙂
  • The fact that God’s got it all in his hand.

Ok.  Worrying, discontent, be gone!