As life kicks back into high gear, with both of us working, and three kids in tow, Its been a struggle to keep “the flame lit” “the love alive” “the candle burning” “the romance going” and other corny euphemisms for a marriage relationship… and we are forced to find more creative ways to make time for each other.
Recently my car broke down, so we’ve been carpooling, which has become a lovely time to talk, as we both head over to pick up the kids together. We can spend that time joking, chatting, seriously and deeply talking, reminiscing, catching up or whatever floats our boats. Its been so nice, that I almost think it will continue even now that my car is on the road. I’m enjoying it too much!
We’ve never been the type for a weekly date night. Getting a babysitter for our brood is… um… tough. 1 know it all + 1 bona fide hellion + one sweet but needy baby = 3 kids altogether. Its no easy task to keep our kiddos in one piece. This calls for more creative measures. Time snuck while kids are sleeping, time spent laughing in the car over stupid stuff:
Allen: THERE’S A COP!
Me: What?! Last time I checked it was NOT illegal to groove and dance in your car at redlights! And the day that that BECOMES illegal, is the day I LEAVE THIS COUNTRY!
Allen: Yeah. I know its not illegal. I just wanted you to know there was one, in case you were gonna run the redlight or something…
This was a nice moment, and is indicative of our car rides. Overall, we have a good time, and it doesn’t make a total date, but we get what we can, where we can.
I just wish I had all the answers, and everything down pat in my marriage. I wish I knew how to juggle relationship, job, kids, all more effortlessly. But, its not that simple. So I guess there is a reason we made a vow for the rest of our lives… I think we’re gonna need it to figure out just how to be married perfectly.